Leave a small notebook in her room. Write: “You don’t have to reply. I’m here. Want me to bring lunch later? Circle yes/no.” Respect her answer. If she circles “no,” leave food outside her door.
How to protect your own mental health while supporting a struggling brother or sister. Tips for Impact: 30 days with my schoolrefusing sister
Accommodation is not enabling. Giving her control over small things (trash, timing, even silence) rebuilt her sense of agency. Anxiety steals the feeling of choice. We have to give it back. Leave a small notebook in her room
Ask openly: “On a scale of 1-10, how alone do you feel?” Respect the answer. If she says “9,” say: “That’s brutal. I’m glad you told me.” Do not problem-solve. 30 days with my schoolrefusing sister